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BITTER,
PARTY OF ONE!!!
While cruising
the Internet the other day, I was disappointed to
find the following comment in a gay men's personal
ad. I've cut and pasted the exact text
directly from his ad:
"I can't stand
most gay people...most gays are the
worst enemy to how society views gay people...
drama queens, backstabbers, gossipers, druggies,
whores...stay away from me!!!"
Even
if this guy feels this way, are these
comments something that you would want to read in a
personal ad? Agree or disagree with him, I would
rather read something that describes the person
placing the ad rather than a blanket trashing of the
whole gay community.
The last time
I checked, we did NOT all have "more issues than
Newsweek magazine". While I agree that "some
are sicker than others", this axiom applies to
both straights and gays. (Remember the
STRAIGHT N.A.S.A. astronaut
who was stalking another astronaut? Ever watched an
episode of the Jerry Springer
show?)
It sounds to
me like the writer of this personal ad is dealing
with gay dating burnout
-- which is something that most of us certainly can relate to at
one time or another. I just don't think that it's
fair to trash ALL gay men because we haven't found
our "Prince Charming".
A more productive response to
"gay dating burnout" would be to invest in one's
dating effort by talking to a therapist. Buying a
self-help book or two could also be helpful.
A self-help book that I've
found really helpful is
Finding The Boyfriend Within by Brad
Gooch. This is a great book to help you find the
answer to the nagging question, "So why am I
still single?" |